Essential oils to help boost your sex drive

Allow an aromatherapy expert lead you to the best picks

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Want to turn up the dial in the bedroom? Essential oils for sex drive acceleration are worthy of consideration. 

Not only are the fragrances pleasurable, but they can serve as sensual foreplay ideas while in the midst of a steamy session—a win-win. 

Whether you'd like the aid for a steamy massage or simply to enhance the aroma between the sheets, Amy Anthony of NYC Aromaticahas a few recs to kick things in the right direction.

Essential oils for sex drive

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According to Anthony, there are a handful of selections to work with. 

"Though each oil is different and has its own personality, all of them are nervines and assist states of receptivity via the nervous system with notable antidepressant effect," she tells My Imperfect Life. 

Her selections include:

  • Patchouli (Pogostemon cablin): a grounding effect to the nervous system, Patchouli "gets into the hips"
  • Vetiver (Chrysopogon zizanioides): a stabilizing and restorative, Vetiver is "quieting and creates a supportive space to give voice to [our] grounding and feminine energy," Anthony says
  • Ylang ylang (Canaga Odorata): a popular choice for the bedroom, Anthony reveals Ylang ylang "embodies patience" and asks us "to settle into a languid state of brilliant sensuality"
  • Clary sage (Salvia sclarea): Anthony describes Clary sage as a nod to the female reproductive system that's relaxing but uplifting and serves as sensual euphoria

She suggests either inhaling the scents through their bottles for 30 seconds to three minutes or to dab up to two drops on a cotton pad before inhaling. 

Amy Anthony's blending idea

Find a 30 ml glass bottle with pump top from your local pharmacy or beauty store. Include the following mixture below, and top everything off with a fixed oil such as Jojoba or Almond. Per Anthony, this can be used a sensual massage oil.

  • 5 drops Patchouli
  • 2 drops Vetiver
  • 4 drops Clary sage
  • 7 drops Ylang ylang

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Essential oils to buy


Neom Sensuous Essential Oil Blend
$22, £30.38

A blend of ylang ylang, frankincense and soothing patchouli to help you feel calm. 


Edens Garden Aphrodisiac Essential Oil Blend

The aroma—Lavender, Sweet Orange, Tangerine, Litsea, Copaiba, Vetiver, Clove Bud, Amyris, Lime, Ylang Ylang, Patchouli, Geranium, Damiana, Jasmine and Rose—is considered stimulating and invigorating. 


Aura Cacia Love Potion Essential Oil Blend
$10.85, £13.94

A spicy, sweet and floral oil to invigorate the mood.

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Amy Anthony

Amy Anthony founded NYC Aromatica, which offers independent aromatherapy and essential oil information, private sessions and professional counseling. 

Danielle Valente
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Need a TV show recommendation? Maybe a few decor tips? Danielle, a digital news writer at Future, has you covered. Her work appears throughout the company’s lifestyle brands, including My Imperfect Life, Real Homes, and woman&home. Mainly, her time is spent at My Imperfect Life, where she’s attuned to the latest entertainment trends and dating advice for Gen Z.

Before her time at Future, Danielle was the editor of Time Out New York Kids, where she got to experience the best of the city from the point of view of its littlest residents. Before that, she was a news editor at Elite Daily. Her work has also appeared in Domino, Chowhound, and amNewYork, to name a few. 

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