Is Amanza Smith's ex-husband still missing? What we know about Ralph Brown and his disappearance

This is what we know about Amanza Smith's ex-husband Ralph Brown

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If you're watching the new season of Selling Sunset and you're a bit confused about the situation with Amanza's ex-husband Ralph Brown, you're not alone.

In season two of Selling Sunset, fans were introduced to Amanza Smith who had a bit of a rough ride at the real estate brokerage to start out with. Having no real experience in real estate but having been friends with Jason and Brett Oppenheim and successful in the interior design world, she was convinced by best friend and fellow realtor, Mary Fitzgerald, to try her hand at real estate. 

During her first two seasons on Selling Sunset, Amanza had some trouble selling her first home and dealing with the pressure from her boss, Jason, but now she’s firmly flourishing at the Oppenheim Group. 

Fans also became aware of Amanza’s personal life, as in season 3 we saw Amanza empathizing with Chrishell Stause over her marriage troubles and attending custody hearings for her children with her ex-husband Ralph Brown. We learned she was once married to former NFL player Ralph Brown and had a successful co-parenting relationship until one day he dropped the kids off at school and just disappeared.

Is Ralph Brown still missing or has he been found? 

Ralph Brown has not yet been found. As Amanza stated on the show, it seems he doesn’t want to be found. 

What happened to Ralph Brown?

Amanza’s ex Ralph Brown was once a very successful football player in the NFL. He began his career playing college football at the University of Nebraska and ended up being the 140th overall pick in the 2000 NFL draft and ended up being selected by the New York Giants. He played for them from 2000 to 2004, playing all 16 games in 2002, which was his best year while at the Giants. He then moved onto to play for the Cleveland Browns, Arizona Cardinals, and Minnesota Vikings, at which point things started to go downhill for him. Ralph retired from the NFL in 2010.

Ralph and Amanza welcomed their first child, daughter Noah in 2009 and got married in July 2010. The following year they welcomed another child, son Braker in 2011. However, that is where the happy ending ended for the couple as they got divorced after two years of marriage.

Amanza explained to Entertainment Tonight in 2020: “When we got divorced, I was adamant that we have 50/50 [custody] because I’m not that kind of person that would ever want my kids to never see their father as much as they see me.”  

It was after the divorce that Amanza said Ralph began to disappear for long periods of time but would always return. But in August 2019, he didn’t. Amanza told E! News: "As of today, August 26, 2020, it is exactly one year since my children have seen their father. He dropped them off at school last August 26, 2019, and we have not heard from him since."

She also added: "About two months after my children's father went missing, I filed a missing persons report with the Glendale police office, I was redirected to an investigator in their office, but after reviewing my case they came back to me stating that he was not a missing person because there was no sign of foul play—and he had also sent me an email telling me that it was 'not safe for the children to be with him right now,' and I would need to keep them until his situation changed. The email came on September 1 of 2019.”

Amanza has even contacted his friends and family to try and find out where Ralph is, but nothing. Calls, emails and texts to his brother and father have gone unanswered,  but some of his former NFL teammates have reached out to her asking about him.

Ralph is a talking point in Selling Sunset season 4 as Amanza Smith revealed that she had hired a private investigator to try and find her ex. Through that she discovers Ralph had signed papers relinquishing all custody of the children, which stated that he could no longer be a parent as his body was 'broken down' due to football. 

Ralph claimed to the court: “Being a parent has been the hardest thing because of the ages of the kids since 2012 when I filed for divorce. I cannot walk or stand for too long or my knees and or lower back will start to hurt very bad,” he wrote in the declaration. “Ms. Smith has constantly texted me on the week she has the kids and the days when I have the kids and it has caused me great stress which has caused multiple mental breakdowns because of her inability to leave me alone even when I have the kids for my week. The extensive pain in my injuries has been so overwhelming I have not wanted to get out of bed at times and do anything for several years. I’ve struggled with depression for many years after my retirement due to this continuous pain.”

The result of this saw Amanza put her children in therapy to allow them talk to someone about having a missing dad as she said in a recent interview with People: “Braker is angry, and Noah is sad,” about their dad's disappearance. Amanza has since gained full custody. 

Does Amanza have a new boyfriend?

Amanza has suggested she’s getting back out there but is yet to find the right person.

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