These are the ultimate tips and tricks to having shower sex

Time to get steamy!

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 When it comes to sex, there are many things you can do to keep it interesting in the bedroom. Whether it’s trying new sex positions based on your star sign or introducing a new buzzy friend into the equation like the best app-controlled vibrators. Sometimes though, it’s all about location. So, for those wanting to take a dive into something new, here are the sexpert's top tips for having very steamy—and safe—shower sex.

There are many pros to having sex in the shower; it’s the perfect location to fit in a quickie, to have morning sex, or to get warm and relieve some stress at the end of a long day. 

While it can be very fun, it can also be a bit awkward logistically and—thanks to the small space and strange angles befitting our bijou apartments—can force you to bend in ways you’ve never bent before. Plus it can also be dangerous as you’re mixing athletics with soap and water—not a great combo.

So with that in mind,  it’s best to be armed with tips and tricks to have a fun but safe time, and thanks to LoveHoney and sex consultant Ness Cooper we've got all the details...

1. Communication

Tip number one is to be vocal about what you’re doing. If you plan on changing position, it’s best to let your partner know as you don’t have a lot of space to work with. It might kill the vibe a little, but not nearly as much as an injury would.

2. Remember romance

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Just because you’re in the shower doesn’t mean you can’t set the mood. Light some candles, dim the lights—well, not too much—and have some music going. Also, make sure the shower is clean!

3. Use the showerhead

For those who don't know, the showerhead can be a great make-shift sex toy. The forces of the water can stimulate the clitoris and vulva, as Cooper adds: “There are sex toy attachments for showerheads that can be explored, from dildos to douches if you’re interested in using those with a partner.”

4. Safety first

As easy as it is to get lost in the moment, it’s important to stay aware of where you leaning as it can get very slippery and steamy. 

Thankfully you can buy things like handles, steps, and other suction devices designed to withstand body weight whilst in the shower. 

5. Sex toys

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Most of the sex toys out there, like hands-free vibrators are actually fully waterproof meaning you can take them into the shower with you. 

Whether you’re flying solo or in there with a partner, a sex toy is a perfect way to spice things up and get your legs shaking

6. Switch up your positions

Being in the shower allows you to use the wall, side of the bath, and all the best standing sex positions, so you can really try out some that you don’t get to do very often or have never tried before. 

Cooper suggests the spooning positions as this: “allows hands to wander over the partner being spooned and adds to the sensuality.”

7. And lube!

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You might be thinking what’s the point in lube when we’re covered in water? But actually, sometimes water can cause a bit of friction. So whether it’s for penetration or you’re using sex toys, lube is always your friend as it has a completely different consistency to water.

Naomi Jamieson
Lifestyle News Writer

Naomi is a Lifestyle News Writer with the Women's Lifestyle team, where she covers everything from entertainment to fashion and beauty, as well as TikTok trends for Woman&Home, after previously writing for My Imperfect Life and GoodTo. Interestingly though, Naomi actually has a background in design, having studied illustration at Plymouth University but lept into the media world in 2020, after always having a passion for writing and earned her Gold Standard diploma in Journalism with the NCTJ.


Before working for Future Publishing’s Lifestyle News team, she worked in the Ad production team. Here she wrote and designed adverts on all sorts of things, which then went into print magazines across all genres. Now, when she isn’t writing articles on celebs, fashion trends, or the newest shows on Netflix, you can find her drinking copious cups of coffee, drawing and probably online shopping.