People are sharing breakup text messages on TikTok, and we're shaking our heads

For the record, a breakup text is NEVER a good idea

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The breakup text, on TikTok no less, is the Gen Z equivalent to Berger's infamous Post-it note. 

If you thought Carrie Bradshaw had it rough, scrolling through trending hashtags on TikTok (#breakuptext and #breakuptextideas, to name but a few) will make you shutter more than, "I'm sorry. I can't. Don't hate me."

TikTok users thought the platform would be a good idea to pause their obsession with the coastal grandmother aesthetic and temporarily part ways with beauty hacks to focus on matters of the heart. Rather than share something uplifting, they're posting the most cringe-worthy breakup text messages they've received. 

What's more, some users are creating videos offering advice on how to break up via SMS. Others are partaking in the #breakuptextprank because, evidently, they couldn't find something to stream and decided to cause havoc instead. 

Before we present you with some jaw-dropping revelations, let's all get on the same page: it's not OK to end a relationship via text, and it's equally questionable if you feel the need to get these conversations circulating FYPs. 

Gen Z and millennial daters are on the hunt for love this year, especially during this pandemic era, and it's only fair to approach courtships authentically. Parting ways over a screen might feel trendy, but it's actually far worse than any in-person split. Put the iPhone down, Shakespeare. 

You won't imagine some of the doozies we've come across. Alexa: play "Someone Like You" by Adele and add Kleenex to our grocery order. 

The breakup text trend on TikTok

Throughout the TikTok breakup text trend, we've encountered a few awful accusations, heartbreaking claims and, yes, even a few funny reactions here and there. 

Overall, we're still making the claim for in-person breakups. Having this all unfold on social media cannot be doing any favors for those breakup coping mechanisms.  

1. Opting for the best friend

Well, some BFF, right? Guess an inevitable friendship breakup is also on the horizon after a reveal like this. 


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2. Keeping it plain and simple

Matt shared a pretty short, but scathing, message with his followers. Geez lady, how about thinking about someone's feelings?


♬ PRESAVE better off without me - Matt

3. Body Shaming

There is no explanation for when someone attacks another person's looks. It's cruel and unnecessary, and definitely won't get you in the Love Is Blind contestant lineup any time soon.


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4. The toilet paper mention

So many questions. 


Breakup texts from the past/present/future

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5. "Nah"

Some of us have opted for the stubborn approach, and we kind of appreciate it. 


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6. "TBH our relationship is kind of bland"

Why on earth?! Just...why?!


♬ rolling in the deep - selina:)

7. "Let's say it at the same time"

This reminds us of Elle Woods saying "I do" while Warner Huntington III confessed: "I think we should break up." 

But now this begs a new question: is it worse to break up via text message or in a very public space?


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8. "I'm so sorry"

Apologies over text don't really hit the same. 


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Yes, parting ways is never easy, but summing up a relationship with a paragraph-long text is definitely not the way to go, and making it a TikTok prank definitely isn't either. Save the TikTok challenges for dance-offs and new makeup styles, not splits.

Danielle Valente
Digital News Writer

Need a TV show recommendation? Maybe a few decor tips? Danielle, a digital news writer at Future, has you covered. Her work appears throughout the company’s lifestyle brands, including My Imperfect Life, Real Homes, and woman&home. Mainly, her time is spent at My Imperfect Life, where she’s attuned to the latest entertainment trends and dating advice for Gen Z.

Before her time at Future, Danielle was the editor of Time Out New York Kids, where she got to experience the best of the city from the point of view of its littlest residents. Before that, she was a news editor at Elite Daily. Her work has also appeared in Domino, Chowhound, and amNewYork, to name a few. 

When Danielle’s not writing, you can find her testing out a new recipe, reading a book (suggestions always welcome), or rearranging the furniture in her apartment…again.