People are sharing breakup text messages on TikTok, and we're shaking our heads

For the record, a breakup text is NEVER a good idea

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The breakup text, on TikTok no less, is the Gen Z equivalent to Berger's infamous Post-it note. 

If you thought Carrie Bradshaw had it rough, scrolling through trending hashtags on TikTok (#breakuptext and #breakuptextideas, to name but a few) will make you shutter more than, "I'm sorry. I can't. Don't hate me."

TikTok users thought the platform would be a good idea to pause their obsession with the coastal grandmother aesthetic and temporarily part ways with beauty hacks to focus on matters of the heart. Rather than share something uplifting, they're posting the most cringe-worthy breakup text messages they've received. 

What's more, some users are creating videos offering advice on how to break up via SMS. Others are partaking in the #breakuptextprank because, evidently, they couldn't find something to stream and decided to cause havoc instead. 

Before we present you with some jaw-dropping revelations, let's all get on the same page: it's not OK to end a relationship via text, and it's equally questionable if you feel the need to get these conversations circulating FYPs. 

Gen Z and millennial daters are on the hunt for love this year, especially during this pandemic era, and it's only fair to approach courtships authentically. Parting ways over a screen might feel trendy, but it's actually far worse than any in-person split. Put the iPhone down, Shakespeare. 

You won't imagine some of the doozies we've come across. Alexa: play "Someone Like You" by Adele and add Kleenex to our grocery order. 

The breakup text trend on TikTok

Throughout the TikTok breakup text trend, we've encountered a few awful accusations, heartbreaking claims and, yes, even a few funny reactions here and there. 

Overall, we're still making the claim for in-person breakups. Having this all unfold on social media cannot be doing any favors for those breakup coping mechanisms.  

1. Opting for the best friend

Well, some BFF, right? Guess an inevitable friendship breakup is also on the horizon after a reveal like this. 

@user079816257

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2. Keeping it plain and simple

Matt shared a pretty short, but scathing, message with his followers. Geez lady, how about thinking about someone's feelings?

@matthansenmusic

♬ PRESAVE better off without me - Matt

3. Body Shaming

There is no explanation for when someone attacks another person's looks. It's cruel and unnecessary, and definitely won't get you in the Love Is Blind contestant lineup any time soon.

@sad.texts01

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4. The toilet paper mention

So many questions. 

@itsbrianpark

Breakup texts from the past/present/future

♬ original sound - Brian Park

5. "Nah"

Some of us have opted for the stubborn approach, and we kind of appreciate it. 

@slaysosmooth

♬ Mirror - ...

6. "TBH our relationship is kind of bland"

Why on earth?! Just...why?!

@textingteax

♬ rolling in the deep - selina:)

7. "Let's say it at the same time"

This reminds us of Elle Woods saying "I do" while Warner Huntington III confessed: "I think we should break up." 

But now this begs a new question: is it worse to break up via text message or in a very public space?

@ceo.of..quotes

♬ Its how I feel - 🖤

8. "I'm so sorry"

Apologies over text don't really hit the same. 

@textingstories9553

♬ original sound - edits

Yes, parting ways is never easy, but summing up a relationship with a paragraph-long text is definitely not the way to go, and making it a TikTok prank definitely isn't either. Save the TikTok challenges for dance-offs and new makeup styles, not splits.

Danielle is a writer for woman&home and My Imperfect Life, covering all-things news, lifestyle and entertainment. 


The heart of her time at Future has been devoted to My Imperfect Life, where she's been attuned to the cosmos and honed in on astrology coverage within the Life vertical. She's partial to writing pieces about the next big TV obsession—anyone else impatiently waiting for "Conversations with Friends"—and keeping you up to date on new trends like the latest must-have from Zara. 


Before her time at Future, Danielle was the editor of Time Out New York Kids and a news editor at Elite Daily. Her work has also appeared in Domino, Chowhound, amNewYork and Newsday, among other outlets. 


When Danielle is not working, you can usually find her reading a new book, coffee at hand, or attempting a new recipe. (Recommendations always welcome!)