These are the most intimate sex positions to help you reconnect

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After what’s probably been the most stressful two years of most of our lives, it’s understandable if your sex life has taken a bit of a hit. You may be feeling stressed about sex, or just finding it too routine and a bit boring. But it’s never too late to try and reconnect with your partner especially with Valentine's Day upon us—so here are the most intimate sex positions, to reignite that spark.

We all have a repertoire of our favorite, tried and tested moves—but sometimes when you’re in a relationship, as good as those moves are and feel they can get dull, fast. This can impact your sex life quite a bit—especially when you have the rest of life’s stresses to contend with as well.

Thankfully, you can find a plethora of sex tips and positions guides, with an easy search of the web, from the most googled sex positions, to the universe-approved sex positions based on your star signs.

However, if you and your partner are in serious need of reconnecting and reigniting that passion, we recommend intimate positions should be where you start, especially for Valentine's Day. Thanks to Lovehoney (opens in new tab) and sexpert Ness Cooper (opens in new tab), we have a treasure trove of moves for you to try.

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1. Sofa Cowgirl

This move is perfect if you’re already cuddled up on the sofa with your partner or are not in the mood for anything too vigorous. To do this move, the penetrating partner sits and the other straddles them, simple, but effective.

This position allows for closeness, you can kiss and wrap your arms around each other while thrusting and moving your hips towards each other. Ideal for a bit of Netflix and chill.

2. Missionary 

There’s nothing wrong with going back to basics, and Missionary is always reliable for stimulation and sexy feelings. It offers loads of body contact and is the perfect position to incorporate some buzzy toys, like the best hands-free vibrators

3. Spooning

You can’t go wrong with spooning if you and your partner need to feel some togetherness. It’s literally a cuddle position, where the penetrating partner lies behind you, so both of you are lying on your sides, spooning. 

Cooper says: “This position leads to the release of lots of oxytocin and allows you to snuggle into your partner. Melting away into each other’s bodies promotes safety and trust.”

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4. Non-penetrative sex

Sex can sometimes be all about the foreplay, not just about penetration. You can try oral, mutual masturbation, or just exploring each other. 

This is also the perfect way to try out some different types of sex toys, like the best app-controlled vibrators to add a bit of spice.

5. Side saddle

Side Saddle is one for adventurous couples, as it allows for deep penetration and a steamy side view. Either one person lies down, or both can, with the receiving partners sitting sideways on their partner's lap. 

6. Standing sex

This move is perfect for a spontaneous surge of passion. Standing up allows for the same face-to-face intimacy as missionary but can be more exhilarating, although slightly more strenuous. 

Best of all you can do this move anywhere, whether it’s the shower or the kitchen, it's guaranteed to get hearts racing.  

Naomi Jamieson
Lifestyle News Writer

Naomi is a Lifestyle News Writer with the Women's Lifestyle team and has recently earned her Gold Standard diploma in Journalism with the NCTJ. She has a background in design, having studied Illustration at Plymouth University but has taken a leap into the world of journalism after always having a passion for writing. She currently writes pieces on beauty, trends, fashion, and entertainment for GoodTo and My Imperfect Life. She also tests and reviews beauty and skincare products and tries out the latest TikTok hacks for My Imperfect Life.


Before working for Future Publishing’s Lifestyle News team, she worked in the Ad production team. Here she wrote and designed adverts on all sorts of things, which then went into print magazines across all genres. Now, when she isn’t writing articles on celebs, fashion trends, or the newest shows on Netflix, you can find her drinking copious cups of coffee, drawing and probably online shopping.