Psychologists speak out on 'Love Is Blind' drama—here's what they have to say

Clearly, the Netflix hit has gotten everyone's attention

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Have you skimmed Psychology Today? Love Is Blind is a hot topic of conversation for the mental and behavioral health publication as of late.  

But that's no surprise, given Netflix viewers are still reeling over the volatile Love Is Blind season 3 reunion, complete with allegations, tears and a highly-debatable deleted scene involving clementines. Naturally, there were plenty of moments for professional to dissect, and we're not terribly surprised they have. (Everyone is watching, after all.) 

Other than the odd reality dating show being just that, healthcare professionals have noticed a few red flags sprinkled throughout the series. (Even so, we're still going to marathon 'em.) 

Psychology Today 'Love Is Blind' revelations

Although Love Is Blind season 3 is clearly a highly popular topic right now since it just hit the streamer, the psychologists behind the publication haven't just critiqued the third installment. Here are some findings they've uncovered throughout the series in its entirety.   

1. The Devil's Advocate Approach

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According to Dr. Marina Harris, Ph.D (opens in new tab), psychologists will participate in the devil's advocate technique, arguing an opposite position so that a subject will find reasons against the stance. She notes that contestants' parents and loved ones (rightfully) do the same when questioning this major life decision they've just made very quickly. This oftentimes will cause cast members to fight harder for their union, even though it was so rushed and likely not viable. 

2. The Timing

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Speaking of being rushed, the timing is all off according to Dr. Marina Harris. It's not about whether or not love is blind, but it's about whether you're giving yourself enough time to actually get to know your partner. She cites research that indicates people typically know they've found "the one" after about six months—and even that feels fast. In this whirlwind experiment, the Love Is Blind couples only know each other for about two months, tops. 

3. The Self-Care Aspect

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Julia Bartz, LCSW (opens in new tab), a therapist, writer and yoga instructor in New York, noticed that plenty of hopeful romantics who participate in the show are eager to find love, but they have admitted that they've struggled with depression, anxiety and so on from past relationships. She claims that even if these speedy nuptials last, those feelings will resurface with their partners, so it's best to tackle their own self-care needs before embarking on a new romance...even if said romance doesn't get its start on reality TV.

Then we have Isabelle Morley Psy.D. (opens in new tab) who uncovered three major issues (opens in new tab) with Love Is Blind season 3, which prove as helpful tips for those opening up and starting a new relationship with someone. (Hint: save the jumping jacks for the gym. Lookin' at you, Raven.) 

While yes, there are definitely a few questionable methods to this series, we can't deny the fact that Love Is Blind is reality TV gold. If you want to give things a shot in the pods, we suggest that you proceed cautiously!

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Before her time at Future, Danielle was the editor of Time Out New York Kids and a news editor at Elite Daily. Her work has also appeared in Domino, Chowhound, amNewYork and Newsday, among other outlets. 


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