Is ‘bane of my existence’ the new ‘I burn for you’? Plus, other swoon-worthy 'Bridgerton' lines

Have we put aside Daphne Bridgerton and the Duke of Hastings already?!

anthony and kate in bridgerton
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Referring to someone as the "bane of my existence" isn't a promising way to begin a relationship, yet it worked for our favorite Viscount (Jonathan Bailey). 

In Bridgerton season 2, Kate Sharma (Simone Ashley) and Anthony Bridgerton do not exactly see eye to eye, yet romance fans know incompatibility makes for the perfect enemies-to-lovers relationship—and a super-sexy slow burn. 

Now that we've all binged the sophomore installment in its entirety, we've uncovered our new favorite scenes, stepped up our knowledge of Regency-era jargon (like "Why does Kate call Edwina 'bon'? and "What is a rake in Bridgerton?"), read up on the importance of Bridgerton season two's South Asian representation and of course, swooned over Anthony. 

But what exactly is up with his whole "bane of my existence" pick-up line? Then it dawned on us: Is "You are the bane of my existence" the new "I burn for you"?!

The 'bane of my existence' explainer

Though Anthony wishes to wed a woman who does not cause him any trouble, he—naturally—falls for the woman who gives him a run for his money...though he was supposed to marry her "bon," (little sister) Edwina (Charithra Chandran).

Ultimately, Anthony cannot go through with his nuptials to Edwina, which irritates (yet deeply pleases) Kate. She attempts to pick up the broken pieces when he delivers this swoon-worthy line: 

"You are the bane of my existence. And the object of all my desires."

Welp, so much for that, Edwina! You can read the full quote below—with some hilarious modern-day commentary.  

Other swoon-worthy 'Bridgerton' lines

Here's a mix of our favorite quotes from the debut season and second season. Enjoy all of these great lines about affairs of the heart. 

"I burn for you."

Daphne Bridgerton


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Despite what many believe, Daphne is the one who first uttered this unforgettable line, not the Duke!

“It is a very powerful thing to meet someone and feel that you know them in a way unlike any other.”

— Mary Sharma

Bridgerton. (L to R) Simone Ashley as Kate Sharma, Adjoa Andoh as Lady Danbury, Shelley Conn as Mary Sharma, Charithra Chandran


Mama knows best, right? Right.

“All I find myself thinking about, all I find myself being able to breathe for…is you.”

— Anthony Bridgerton

anthony bridgerton in season 2

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"Breathe for," "burn for,"—it seems like these lines are starting to sound very similar...

“To meet a beautiful woman is one thing, but to meet your best friend in the most beautiful of women is something entirely apart.”

— Duke of Hastings


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Simon will always hold a special place in our hearts, of course. 

“It is you I cannot sacrifice.”

— Daphne Bridgerton



Oh, Daph! 

“You are wise or perhaps unusually lucky to understand friendship to be the best possible foundation a marriage can have.”

— Queen Charlotte

FYI, read all about the Bridgerton spinoff and get all the intel on the queen. 

Golda Rosheuvel as Queen Charlotte in episode 206 of Bridgerton

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“All I find myself thinking about, all I find myself being able to breathe for…is you.”

— Anthony Bridgerton

We'll leave you with that juicy commentary—it's pretty delightful. 

Since we have a ways to go before the next installment of the beloved Netflix series, we recommend you familiarize your self with the original Bridgerton story: Julia Quinn's novels!

Here's how to read the Bridgerton books in order (and don't forget the Bridgerton prequels). If you need us, we'll be on the couch reading and rewatching all of the love unfold from Mayfair, London. 

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