Christmas Day sex: tips to ensure you get some sexy time without feeling shattered

Christmas Day sex can be easier to squeeze in than you think if you follow this expert advice...

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Christmas Day sex doesn't have to be too tiring or impossible to squeeze in during your hectic festive celebrations, with these expert tips on how to mark the 25th of December with a 'bang'.

Christmas, for many, is a time of celebration—to rejoice and relax and (perhaps even more so at the moment) we could all do with a few days to switch off and spend time with our significant other. 

"Mistletoe and mulled wine can definitely put us in the mood for love, but it can be tricky to find the right time for a spot of festive fun between the sheets," says Johanna Rief, head of Sexual Empowerment at We-Vibe.

"It’s also important to remember that just because it’s Christmas (or any significant time of year for that matter) it does not mean you must be intimate with your partner. There’s no hard and fast rules around Christmas and sex and so every couple should do what feels and works best for them."

But if you do want to heat things up in the bedroom, there are a few things you can do to make sure you can be intimate without feeling too tired...

1. Think outside the bedroom

Intimacy doesn’t have to be exclusive to the bedroom and doesn’t need to just be about sex. Gestures such as a kiss, holding hands, or cuddling can show your partner how you feel about them and also provide feelings of love and reassurance. Think beyond the act of sex and why not excite each other with a spot of foreplay, dirty talk, or even mutual masturbation.

2. Break out of the routine

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Just as there are no rules about having sex at Christmas, there are also no rules about sex happening at night only. Perhaps you’re more energetic in the morning, so why not take advantage of the extra spring in your step and the early rise and have morning sex? Or why not try getting steamy in a joint shower before bed. Don’t be afraid to think outside of the bedroom and find moments of intimacy that work best for you and that won’t leave you falling asleep at the breakfast table in the morning.

3. Add a little spice to the bedroom

If you prefer to stick to the bedroom for your moments of passion, introducing something new can be a great way to ensure you enjoy some festive fun. Sexy lingerie and app-controlled vibrators are perfect for couples wanting to spice things up and make sure you’re both wide awake. If you are thinking about introducing a toy into your relationship, make sure it’s one that benefits both of you. 

4. Gift a sex toy to get things started

Oh for a friend like Cara Delevigne to give us a sex toy Christmas gift... She's certainly got the right idea—a couple's toy such as the We-Vibe Chorus is the perfect plaything to add extra buzz to the bedroom. Worn by the woman during sex, it can stimulate both partners at the same time. With ten vibration patterns, in addition to the app control, the product also has a squeeze remote control, which guarantees intuitive control by a simple squeeze of your hand. Built-in sensors (the Touch-Sense modes) enable the toy to react to body movement if desired—and to intensify the stimulation without having to press a single button. Alternatively, browse these best-reviewed sex toys.

5. Share the festive workload

No one wants to have sex when they’re tired and Christmas, as enjoyable as it is, can be the most tiring time of all. From buying food and presents, wrapping late into the evening and trying to squeeze as much joy out of the day as possible, sometimes when our head hits the pillow, all we can think about is sleep.

In this instance, it’s important to share the festive workload between you. Stress is a passion-killer, so help each other with the household chores and Christmas tasks and not only will they be done in half the time, leaving you more time for each other, but you’ll feel less tired when it comes to enjoying a spot of alone time.

So what are you waiting for? Ho, Ho, Ho let's go...

Selina Maycock
Selina Maycock

Selina is a Senior Entertainment Writer with more than 14 years of experience in newspapers and magazines. She currently looks after all things Entertainment for GoodtoKnow, Woman&Home and My Imperfect Life.

Before joining Future Publishing, Selina graduated from the University of Sheffield in 2006 with a degree in Journalism. She is fully NCTJ and NCE qualified and has 100wpm shorthand. Having spent the start of her career working on local newspapers and online, Selina spent six years as Acting News Editor and Entertainment Reporter at the Scunthorpe Telegraph where she dug into hard news stories, conducted interviews, covered court reporting, features, and entertainment, whilst going to gigs in her spare time.

Whilst at the paper she was awarded an O2 Media Judges' Special Award for helping a terminally ill cancer sufferer realise his dying wish and marry his childhood sweetheart through a successful newspaper campaign. Things like this are close to her heart when it comes to using journalism to make a positive difference in people's lives.

Selina later branched further into all things celebrity to became a Showbiz Writer at Heat magazine, covering red carpet events, showbiz parties, and various launches before going freelance for two years. One of her biggest celebrity achievements - aside from generating celebrity exclusives - was interviewing Take That (including Robbie Williams) and bumping into Simon Cowell so much at events she told him 'I'm calling you my showbiz dad!'

In 2017 she joined TI Media as a senior reporter on Woman, Woman's Own, Woman&Home, Woman's Weekly celebrity desk before branching online in 2020 when Future gave her the opportunity to focus on digital-first.

When she's not interviewing celebrities you can find her exploring new countryside walking routes, catching up with friends over good food, or making memories.